I Just Don’t Want to Be Lonely
OK, so he doesn’t have a job, but he is a great cook! There are absolutely no worries about what’s for dinner at your house, providing you have supplied the ingredients.
A good friend of yours who was always complaining about her brother being a freeloader and wanting to get him out of her house neglected to tell you that he was drop-dead gorgeous. One day, you were visiting your girlfriend, and a guy with the most pleasant voice walked into the room and insisted that he be introduced to you. After a brief encounter in your girlfriend’s kitchen, you invited him to your house—and your house quickly became his home, sweet home.
Although your girlfriend, his sister, gave you a fair warning about his character defects, you find him to be great company and a welcome change to an empty house with four walls that you felt were beginning to close in on you. Besides, he seemed to be a pretty good guy and not a bad fixer-upper project. With a little work and a lot of money, you manage to get his teeth done, wardrobe adjusted, self-esteem renewed, and old girlfriend back on the chase.
Suddenly, a man whose only means of survival was his sister is now quite the ladies’ man. You find yourself spending countless days and nights alone and have finally admitted that you really are alone. One day while hanging out at the mall, trying to pass time, to your surprise, you come across your ex-husband, who is in town for a visit but is seriously considering relocating. Nothing has changed about him; he still has that thing he had when you decided to marry him. He is really happy to see you and anxious to pick up where the two of you had left off. You go home and quickly pack your girlfriend’s brother’s bags. You drive by her house and toss the bags in front of it.
Later that night, you have candlelight dinner with your ex-husband, and he spends the evening. The next morning, he seems to be in a hurry and explains that he’ll see you later that night. You rush out to get your hair and nails done and hurry back to clean the house and prepare one of his favorite meals. When daylight turns to night, you decide to call but only get voice mail. So you open a bottle of wine, play some of your old love songs, and wait. After numerous walks to the window, several bottles of wine, and countless unanswered calls, you decide to curl up on the couch and go to sleep with your head resting on one hand, attempting to preserve what was once a fabulous hairdo worn just for him. Three days go by without even a glimmer of hope that he would even think of coming back.
It’s Christmas Eve, it’s snowing outside, and there is a knock at the door. It’s your girlfriend’s brother! He hasn’t brought any gifts, but he actually looks pretty good, and he sure beats a blank. You open up a bottle of wine, and the two of you have a white Christmas, complete with your chestnuts roasting on an open fire, and he is enjoying the comforts of your nice, warm home. The next day, he goes to the kitchen to see what you might have purchased and prepares breakfast for the both of you in bed.
As you’re lying in each other’s arms, he tells you how distraught he was when you asked him to leave. Suddenly, there is a knock at the door. It’s your ex-husband. He has his bags in the car and can explain everything.
You have given various men permission to rack up frequent flyer miles with you. They’re in and out of your life through the revolving door to your house. Your assortment of men is more varied than the selection at the local convenience store. Your house should be your sanctuary, yet it has become a shelter for any gentleman or whoever could come anywhere close to being a companion that cares to hang his hat for the evening. Your guests find no need to rush back or reserve a room at your place, because the doors are always open. You’re willing to settle for whatever excuse that is given providing it does not require you to spend another night feeling alone.
At first glance, it may appear you’re only interested in making sure that you don’t have an empty pillow beside you at night. However, when we look deeper, it becomes quite apparent that a woman like this is very uncomfortable with herself. When a woman suffers from low self-esteem, it’s very easy for her to commit herself to anyone who may express interest in her, regardless of how she may feel about him. Often, women suffering from this issue feel that they have to put up with behavior from men that don’t satisfy them and consider themselves lucky to have a man at all. Many times, when a woman has low self-esteem, she appear obsessed and infatuated, and this is a toxic cocktail for any relationship. A relationship should never be artificially moved along and most men run from Fatal Attractions.